BY JEREMY FILKO May 24, 2020 My loss came in the blink of an eye and is at the very center of what makes me who I am. One day I was newly promoted at my firm, the next I was struggling to talk. I felt like a marionette, watching […]

Broken Memories Create Loss of Ties


By Beth McLaughlin, Kate Kostohryz, Jackie Naginey Hook and Evelyn Wald, May 3, 2020 Dear State College Community, Hi, how are you?  No, really, how are you? On any given day, and often in any given hour, this question may be answered in very different ways. Our sense of wellness, […]

Join a Wellness of Grief Virtual Gathering to Cope with ...


By Jackie Naginey Hook, March 29, 2020 One day last week, my husband and I were out on our morning walk through the neighborhood. The air was crisp and the sky a vivid, cloudless blue. Each time we came upon a neighbor, we made sure to maintain the appropriate social […]

Learning to Live with Pandemic Losses by Moving



By Beth McLaughlin, February 23, 2020 Stories need to be told. Stories need to be heard. That’s exactly what happened Monday night, February 17th, when six local storytellers took to the stage in The Attic of The State Theatre. The stories were heartfelt and compelling. There was laughter. There were […]

The Story Behind ‘My Life: Re-Launched’


By Lauri Perman, January 26, 2020 When someone you love is slowly fading away, it creates a lot of anxiety. You feel you should “do” something and yet you can’t. Over a period of more than ten years, my husband Tom slowly faded away both cognitively and physically. For the […]

The Importance of Being Present to Someone Who’s Dying


By Jackie Naginey Hook, December 22, 2019 What would happen if Grief Came to Lunch? A group of local professionals recently found out when Grief came to the TIDES Grief Matters’ educational seminar for school faculty, counselors, therapists and clinicians. Grief was played by one of the presenters who wore a […]

What Happens When Grief Comes to Lunch?



BY BEN WIDEMAN I still remember the phone call I got from my wife while I was at work. “Come home now… something’s not right, I can’t feel the baby moving.” Though we tried to convince ourselves that everything would be just fine on that hurried drive to the hospital, […]

Allowing Room to Journey Through Grief


BY CAROLYN M. TODD OCTOBER 31, 2019 01:06 PM, UPDATED OCTOBER 31, 2019 12:06 PM I lost my husband Terry five years ago after he battled lung cancer for six months. Early in our marriage, we were both working in business and doing well economically. One year we bought each […]

When ‘Watch Time’ Means More than Hands on a Clock


BY MONICA MONTAG SEPTEMBER 19, 2019 08:55 PM, UPDATED SEPTEMBER 19, 2019 08:55 PM My life changed in August 2017 when my mother died. She was 93 and had a rich and adventure-filled life. I think of Mom often and frequently mention her to others, because she is very much still […]

Take as Much Time as Needed After a Profound Loss



BY JACKIE HOOK AUGUST 27, 2019 08:33 AM, UPDATED AUGUST 27, 2019 12:33 PM In my work with Koch Funeral Home, we choose monthly themes, and then I write blog posts corresponding with that theme. Last year when we chose the themes for 2019, I didn’t realize how pertinent our August […]

Understanding the Relationship Between Change and Grief