Diana Malcom
During the past few years, our world has known tremendous tragedy. Just last month, a plane crashed at our own airport, taking the life of a generous doctor and his pilot. That’s the local. It’s almost too painful to think beyond our own village. It demands much of us, as […]

Grieve a Great Loss at Your Own Pace


Alicia Anderson
I could barely drag myself out of bed the morning after Willow died. For nearly four and a half years, she had been the main reason I got up early, dressed and went out to walk in all weather. A gray and white Siberian Husky with heaps of soft fur, […]

Social Media Grief Sharing Can Help Heal


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When I began my career in the funeral industry at the age of 21, I had a lot to learn. Looking back on it a half-century later, one thing I’ve learned is I would do it all over again. Although the hours were pretty hard on my family and me, […]

Lessons Learned as a Funeral Director



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“In like a lion, out like a lamb.” “April showers bring May flowers.” Spring is a time of dramatic changes in weather, the cold hard earth softening and bringing forth new life … and endless clichés. Spring is not only the time of nature’s rebirth, it is also graduation season. […]

Learning to Live: Preparing for Transitions


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Reposted from Targuman. This past month I had the great privilege to participate in an “OLLI” course with our local funeral home director, rabbi, and Orthodox priest. I was surprised that there was less I knew about the Orthodox mourning traditions, than I did about Jewish ones. One tradition was […]

Remembering the Dead


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As much as we hate it, people we love die. No ifs, ands, or buts — just when. No salve can be applied. No panacea found. There’s no “right” way to grieve. No degrees conferred when, maybe, we are able to string some decent days together. One step forward, two […]

Learning to Live: The Lost and Founds of Grieving



Pamela Monk
Let me tell you a story. My father died in 1994. It wasn’t an easy death, he wasn’t an easy man. The official cause was septicemia, but I know it was chagrin. He was on dialysis — his kidneys failed him after years of chain smoking and diabetes. Dad had […]

Learning to Live: Stories Can be Passed Down like Heirlooms


Kimberly McGinnis
What is loss? Loss is many things to many people. By definition, it is the fact or process of losing something or someone. There are many types of loss. The loss I am learning to live with is the slow process of losing a loved one to Alzheimer’s disease. I […]

Learning to Live: Loss, Deprivation Come in Many Forms


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In a few days, we will come to the end of 2015. For some, it may have been a good year. For others, it may have been their worst and they are more than ready to move on into 2016. What’s your story? When I was a child, I was […]

Learning to Live: Letting Go of the Old Year



Elizabeth Brady
There are many caregivers in our community that you don’t see until you need them. When our son Mack died suddenly on New Year’s Eve 2012, two weeks shy of his 9th birthday, they emerged from the darkness like the early morning shards of sunlight through the trees. Over the […]

Learning to Live: New Group Aims to Help Community Members ...