BY EVELYN WALD MARCH 27, 2022 7:00 AM “How’s retirement?” This is the latest question I hear on a regular basis. On Dec. 31, 2021, I retired from my main, full-time job. I continue to work part-time for Tides and serve a small church. This was a big decision for […]

Retirement offers a new way of being


BY JANE P. BUTLER FEBRUARY 27, 2022 6:00 AM My mind is the fog on a rainy day protecting me from knowing the extent of the grief yet to come. I am in a trance with a list to finish. Checking off each item keeps sadness hidden. When all is […]

Nature’s healing promise




BY MARY CURRAN DECEMBER 26, 2021 5:00 AM Here we are celebrating our second holiday season in the midst of a pandemic and all I can think about is what life was like before we worried about masking, vaccines and hand sanitizer. Travel back in time to Christmas 2019. Ask […]

This holiday season, think of time like a river


BY EVELYN WALDNOVEMBER 28, 2021 7:00 AM I remember watching a show hosted by Art Linkletter (my age is showing!) called “Kids Say the Darndest Things.” He would ask questions and in their open, innocent way, children would respond. Their responses brought laughter and sometimes tears. For more than 17 […]

What Children Teach Us About Grief, and What They Need ...


BY BETH MCLAUGHLIN OCTOBER 24, 2021 5:00 AM After Dave, my husband, died unexpectedly in late 2015, I began to frantically look all over the house for the watch I had given him on our wedding day. It was nowhere to be found. I became fixated on its whereabouts even […]

Confronting Time’s Impact on Memories



BY LAURI PERMAN SEPTEMBER 26, 2021 6:00 AM “How long does grief last?,” a recent widow asked, struggling with the pain of her loss. In response I shared this story. I was 15, sitting cross-legged on the floor near my grandfather in his heavy wooden rocker, when I learned he […]

How Long Does Grief Last?


BY ZACHARY MASERAUGUST 22, 2021 07:00 AM Nature doesn’t refuse itself, not like human nature does, anyway. For example, the tree does not pretend to be anything but a tree, and it does not refuse being the tree that it is. It graciously accepts the storm no matter the loss […]

Finding the ‘Joy in the Mourning’


BY CHRISTY A. CLAPPERUPDATED JULY 25, 2021 09:35 AM When our daughter was little she used to ask from the back seat of the car if we were, “closer to the front or the back” when making long trips. It meant, were we closer to our destination or closer to […]

Moving ‘Closer to the Front’ with Each Passing Second



BY MARY BOUTSELISJULY 04, 2021 07:00 AM My mother was a sturdy soul. She was of German descent, born and raised in a farming community in Michigan. Her motto was, “If anyone is still working, you don’t sit down.” When she came to visit us later in her life, she […]

Long Journey Presented New Opportunity to Meet Change and Loss